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Retired? Taking it easy? No, not for
the Yoongs. They are getting re-fired in the marriage enrichment ministry.
By Dr Lim Poh Ann
Very few couples can say they are involved together in a ministry
which enriches their own marriage as it blesses others. Often work can drive a
wedge between two loving people—while one partner is immersed in work, the
other is left alone with unmet needs.
Meet Yoong Fan Ngian and Sian Li, Family Development
Managers at Alpha Malaysia, a couple whose passion is to strengthen marriages
all over Malaysia. The Marriage Course (TMC),which they conduct and promote,helps married couples understand
marriage the way God intended it as well as understand one another better.
The Yoongs, who spent 15 out of their 37 years of
marriage running marriage enrichment courses, are now fired up by The
In this course, held over eight weeks, married couples
gather together weekly for a candlelight meal. They view a video message followed
by discussion between husband and wife, guided by a manual. Privacy is
respected as there is no group discussion, and no requirement to disclose
anything about one’s relationship to others.
Pertinent areas covered in The Marriage Course include:
Building Strong Foundations
The Art of Communication
The Power of Forgiveness
Parents and In-laws
Love in Action
The course culminates in a “graduation party” where graduating
couples and their guests watch a video entitled, What Makes a Marriage Work and hear powerful testimonies of the “graduands”.
Guests who are interested in TMC will join the next course.
In an increasingly fast-paced, materialistic society, marital
conflict is an issue the church cannot afford to ignore. Often resources to
strengthen marriages are limited within the local church: pulpit ministry,
books, tapes or the pastor’s counselling skill. Many different concerns—other
than building stronger marriages or resolving marital strife—clamour for the
pastor’s attention. This is where marriage enrichment courses such as TMC can
play a vital role.
What distinguishes TMC from other marriage courses?
married couples with the tools to build strong and healthy marriages that last
a lifetime.Instruction through video, not by a trainer, ensures consistency
in the quality of teaching, and greater potential to reach out to more
interested couples. It is less “trainer-dependent” as the course almost “runs
by itself”—except for a facilitator, also called the host, who looks into the
initial introduction, food, seating arrangement, creating a special ambience and
response to queries. Thehostneed not be a so-called
“expert” (with many years of intensive training coupled with personal and
ministry experience) before he can run the course. However, the host must have
attended TMC and the leaders’ training provided by Alpha Malaysia.
TMCparticipants learn in a
relaxed atmosphere of fun, food, fellowship and music. It is non-threatening
even to those outside the church. In fact, non-believing spouses have been
known to be encouraged by its positive values that they even embrace the faith.
Even couples on the brink of divorce have had their relationships restored after
attending the course. (Disclaimer: TMC is not intended to replace
professional marriage counselling).
What couples say aboutTMC:
didn't have the privilege to attend pre-marital counselling, so TMC has blessed
us with new insights on the basics of marriage and how to navigate through the storms.”
us that it’s important to set aside weekly time together—especially on busy
days. This helps us draw closer together and rediscover each other.”
TMC, we learn about each other's Love
Language which we now focus on to enhance our marital relationship.”
If you want to enhance your marriage or resolve a bad
patch in your marriage, do give TMC a chance. Whether it is to
BUILD, MEND or SAVE your marriage, join thousands all over the world in
discovering the difference The Marriage Course can make to YOUR
marriage. (You can even help your friends enhance their marriages).
The Marriage Course was started by Nicky and Sila Lee, staff of an Anglican
church, Holy Trinity Brompton, in central London in 1996.The course is now
running in over 2300 locations in 60 countries, and in about 35 locations in