Understanding the underlying dynamics of these two factors is often the first step towards conflict resolution.
Firstly, the sexes are wired differently. We may not fully agree with John Gray (author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus) that men and women are as different as beings from different planets. But understanding the gender difference in communication styles and emotional needs is often the first step towards building a happy marriage.
The apostle Paul held a high view of marriage, comparing it to the relationship between Christ and the church: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. As the church submits to Christ, so you wives must submit to your husbands in everything. And you husbands must love your wives with the same love Christ showed the church” (Ephesians 5: 21,24,25).
RESOLVING MARITAL CONFLICT
MARRIAGE COMPARED TO RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN CHRIST AND THE CHURCH
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.