Sunday, 3 June 2012
FACING REJECTION IN LOVE
No matter how pure the intention or motive, loving acts may not always be well received. Sadly, this happens even in the case of married couples, who once pledged unfailing love for one another.
In the movie Fireproof, fireman Caleb tries to salvage his troubled marriage. On his dad’s suggestion, he painstakingly follows the steps outlined in the book, The Love Dare, to show love and consideration to his wife, Catherine. For example, he helps to wash the dishes and even prepares a candlelight dinner for two.
But though he carries out all the instructions (40 steps, one a day), his efforts are constantly rebuffed. “How am I supposed to show love to somebody who constantly rejects me?” he utters in frustration to his dad.
Only when he understands that true love is unconditional – the way God loves sinners – and perseveres does he experience a breakthrough and saves his marriage. Indeed, “love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7).
While Valentine’s day and other romantic occasions have a place in marriage, couples would do well to remember the importance of mutual commitment through thick and thin over the years.
God compares marriage, the sacred institution He established, to the relationship between Christ and the church. Both were meant to last.